I don’t know about you but I have made a lot of mistakes in business. Sadly I have even hurt people, quite a few people. It was never my intention to make the mistakes I have made or hurt the people I have hurt but I did. Equally, I have been on the receiving end of what I perceive to be someone else’s mistakes and I too have been hurt, at times very deeply.
One thing that really upsets me is being misunderstood and more specifically falsely accused! Sure I make mistakes but if I haven’t done something wrong and am accused of doing something that I didn’t do, I get really upset. I imagine I have done the same to others too but am very aware of how unfair this is and try to really lean in and understand a situation before I make up my mind.
My intuition is quite good, I pick things up and sense things that perhaps can’t be explained logically. This is something I try to use to make good decisions about people as best I can. When in a situation that demands an instant response I try my best to trust this instinct.
So, what is the point to all this? The point is that I have a lot of people out there who don’t like me! W H A T? I hear you say. I know, it’s hard to imagine as I am just so lovely 😉 But seriously, my mistakes added to someone else’s rough patch or insecurity could easily make me very unlikeable. Knowing this makes me sad, especially lately as it was brought to my attention that I was not welcome at a particular networking group at all! When I was told I wasn’t surprised but only a little disappointed that I wasn’t event given the opportunity to visit this group and allow them time to see who I really am and not who they think I am.
You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but…
you can’t please all of the people all of the time. Tweet This!
We know the saying all too well but the reality of it is another thing. I want to please everyone. I want everyone to like me. I want to be a good person and do good for others. Alas, the reality is that no matter how hard I try, there will always be people who don’t like me, misunderstand me and say nasty things about me to others. I have decided not the be like that! I would like to practice forgiveness in business. Would you? My plan is to give people a second chance trying to see the best in them whilst still being wise and not allowing them to walk all over me. I would like to offer the grace that I would like to receive. It would be nice if people wouldn’t just write me off after my first mistake but linger with me and see if it was just a mistake or a character flaw. Even if it’s a character flaw, walk with me a little longer and see if you can help me iron it out. What on earth are we doing in business if we can’t even offer a little forgiveness when someone slips up?
Let me leave you with a brilliant article from Forbes to help you and I on our business journey: